Certain authoritarians who joined the #metoo movement have been sucking the fun out of culture, one icon at a time. This month, the religious-left aimed their judgmental gaze at Christmas.
Apparently, the song Baby It's Cold Outside should be removed and revoked from collective consciousness because it's too rape-y sounding. When they hear that song they hear, "Baby, I'm Going to Rape You". (Relax! I'm pretty sure if he is going to rape you he wouldn't be begging you to stay. Persistence can be sexy, you know.)
The #metoo movement began as a legitimate exposure of sexual abuse. The abuse of power and sex by people like Harvey Weinstein and Bill Cosby (and many others) needs to be stopped and exposed. That is true! But when orthodoxy gets a hold of things they ruin it for women and men alike. Some women have legitimate claims of abuse. So, when ideologues say things things like, "I was visually raped by a man who stared too long." They might as well say, "Don't take sexual abuse seriously. Men, walk on eggshells and resent all women (and believe all women too because no woman has never lied)." They made the #metoo movement a smear campaign against men in general.
The problem with waging war on men instead of predators is that the majority of men would fight along side us... that is, if we don't push and shove them away. Together we are stronger to fight actual injustice in the world.
Tonight on my drive home I heard Baby It's Cold Outside playing on the radio and I smiled as it played. I smiled, first, because I realized the sanctimony of the religious-left has not fully enveloped society (yet) and, second, because I think this song is sexy. It celebrates the ancient instinct of male aggression and female passivity, which seems to be the erotic undercurrent of heterosexual attraction. And before you protest answer me this, "Why is Fifty Shades of Gray" one of the best selling book of all time? That's right... ALL TIME. Women eat this stuff up.
Women and men are different creatures, though we have more in common than not, as humans. You push and I pull. That's fine. It doesn't mean we aren't equal or that we shouldn't be. Men and women are unique and yet equal... or as my daughter says, "Men and women are uniqual".
Without men (who are still brave enough to act on their instincts) women's lives would be a unbelievably lopsided and boring.